When the Group Chat Is the Lifeline
There’s a lot of noise right now about social media — and rightly so. Many of us are rethinking how we use it, stepping back from the scroll, or even ending our relationship with platforms like Meta altogether. And honestly, in a world of algorithms, distractions, and digital overwhelm, taking a break can be a really healthy move.
But I wanted to write this as a gentle reminder that not all corners of the online world are harmful. Some are lifelines. Some are places where connection thrives, where real support lives, and where community grows in ways that would be nearly impossible without the tech.
Mums of the Hills is one of those places.
Inside our private group, something powerful happens every single day. Someone takes a breath, opens their phone, and posts a question they might never say out loud. And in return? They get solidarity, suggestions, support — sometimes laughter, sometimes tears, but always connection.
The posts don’t always look the same. Some come from a place of heartbreak, some from pure overwhelm, some from practical everyday parenting chaos. Some are lighthearted, and others are quietly brave.
They might start with:
"Is it just me, or…?"
"Not sure if this is okay to ask, but…"
"Feeling really stuck — does anyone know where to start?"
Or even:
"Please help me settle a debate — no judgment!"
And it’s never just about the answers — though the advice and recommendations are incredible. It’s about the feeling of not being alone in the unknown. It’s about watching strangers become cheerleaders, educators, and compassionate companions in a moment that felt really vulnerable.
This isn’t just a Facebook group. It’s a support network made up of mums who get it. Who show up — with knowledge, empathy, humour, and lived experience — and hold space for each other.
In a world where we’re often expected to have it all together, this group reminds us that it’s okay to ask. It’s okay to need help, reassurance, or just a really good bakery recommendation.
We protect this space fiercely, because what’s said in the group stays in the group. That trust is sacred. But what we can say publicly is this: every post — whether about family, relationships, work, identity, motherhood, or late-night cravings — matters.
And it’s worth noting — MotHs private online group didn’t just magically happen. In a TEDx talk I presented last year, I shared three tips for building a strong online community: have a clear purpose, invest in skilled moderation, and intentionally shape the culture. That’s exactly how MotHs online group grew into what it is today — a place where people can show up as they are, and be met with kindness and care.
If you’ve ever posted, replied, or even just read along quietly — thank you. You’re part of something real. And in this online corner of the world, that kind of support is everything.
And finally, a massive shoutout to our incredible moderators — the unsung heroes who quietly hold the space, guide the tone, and make sure this community remains safe, kind, and respectful. The work they do behind the scenes is what allows thousands of mums to speak honestly, ask bravely, and be met with care.
We see you. We appreciate you. And we couldn’t do this without you. 💛